'Stuey, What's Good?' on growing apart from a best friend, being bullied based on fleeked hair, listening to Christmas music, and getting annoyed

by STUEY THE DRAGON
Advice-giving dragon

​My BFF is not talking to me, and I've tried to get them to tell me what's wrong. The problem is that we are both really busy, and I don't know how to go about getting them alone. I want to make things right, and I think I know why things are bad. However, I'm not sure. Stuey, what’s good?

•  – I'm losing my BFF

Dear I’m losing my BFF,
Juggling both your future career and your personal relationships is definitely a struggle. I suggest planning a time to get together and talk, perhaps over dinner in the cafeteria, because you both have to eat eventually. I completely understand your annoyance with not being able to get them to tell you what’s wrong; however, if the friendship is worth saving, you will work it out. Just have patience and know that everyone makes mistakes (everyone has those days) and forgiveness is a given when your friendship is important to both of you.

Dying my hair fun colors is one of my most favorite things to do. But today when I was discussing what color I want to do next with a friend, the girl sitting next to her told me that I should not do it because it will look hideous. Everyone else I know has told me it will look really pretty, but now I’m scared they were just being nice because they know me. Maybe the rude stranger is the only one being honest with me, and I’m really nervous that if I do it, it will look really ugly. Stuey, what’s good?
 –​ Painting My Hair With All the Colors of the Wind

Dear Pocahontas,
The people who are telling you that your hair will look pretty as this new color are your friends right? People you love and trust? People who support you? People who love you and want the best for you? Of course they are, because that’s how friends work. And if they are telling you that you will look remarkable, then you obviously will! Your friends would definitely tell you if you wouldn’t look good, because they would never want you to look bad! So ignore the haters and do what makes you happy. Plus, when your hair comes out looking fabulous, then you can do a killer hair flip in that rude girl’s face.

So I’m getting very annoyed because people keep telling me that I cannot listen to Christmas music until after Thanksgiving. I personally love Christmas and enjoy listening to a lot of the festive songs and watching some holiday films all year round. I usually use headphones, but occasionally I like to listen to music without them. Stuey, what’s good?
 – The Yule Never Bothered Me Anyway

Dear Xmas Elsa,
I understand your need to listen to Christmas music all year round. I, too, am a Xmas connoisseur and enjoy the holiday tunes 365 days a year. If people have a problem with this, just tell them to take their Ebenezer Scrooge selves somewhere else, because obviously they are feeling some type of way towards you, and you do not need that negativity in your life. You just be your festive, yuletide-loving self and keep decking the halls as much as you want. Stay beautiful, you little Buddy the Elf, you. 

Okay, so I am trying to be a nicer person, because I was sort of a pessimistic downer in my past, but people keep trying me. I get annoyed very easily and have been working on this for the past few years. I have gotten myself to a point where I can remove myself from situations that annoy me, but recently people have been making rude comments about me and my friends. I want to say something but do not want people to think I am just being rude back and “stooping” to their level. Stuey, what’s good?
 – Why You Gotta Be So Rude

Dear Closet Pessimist,
It is great to hear that you are working on yourself, and I hope that you continue to work on bettering your negative attitude. If people are making rude comments about you and your friends, it is not out of anyone’s character to put them in their places. You can still confront these people without being rude. There is no reason people should be making comments about others in this manner, and you should definitely do something about this. If people think you are being rude, just remember that you did the right thing by sticking up for yourself and the people you care about. Do not let people walk all over you.