'Stuey, What's Good?' on unrequited love and unintended offense

by STUEY THE DRAGON
Advice-giving dragon

A friend of mine has recently expressed feelings for me, but I don’t feel the same way. Stuey, what’s good?
​- I Don't Want That

Dear I Don’t Want That,

If you don’t feel the same way, you should definitely tell your friend that you don’t have the same feelings for them. It would be unfair to both you and them to lead them on by not immediately letting them know how you feel.

But just because you don’t have romantic feelings for them, that doesn’t mean that you two can’t remain friends. Let them know that you value your friendship a lot and that you don’t want that to change. Eventually, they will probably get over you. It’s not like you’re Beyoncé.

So I said something rude about one of my friends but did not mean anything by it. She took offense. I tried to apologize, but she will not accept it. Stuey, what’s good?
- ​I’m Not Rude I Promise

Dear I’m Not Rude I Promise,

If you truly did not mean anything by your statement then you need to make sure she knows that. Explain to her what you meant and that you did not mean to be rude or offend her in any way.

If this person does not accept your apology, then that is her problem. All you can do to try and solve this issue is to continue being nice to them. Do not go out of your way to make her feel better or try to make her forgive you. If you truly did not mean to be rude, she will eventually come around. ​