by STUEY THE DRAGON
Stuey, What’s Good is an advice column created by TU students for TU students. Whether your questions are about first year jitters or nerves about facing the “real world” after graduation, from relationship drama to roommate disasters, Stuey has you covered. Even if you just need someone to talk to, you should always feel free to ask everybody’s favorite dragon for some thoughtful advice. Don’t worry about having your name attached because your submissions can always be anonymous. So ask away, and don’t forget to close your question with a “Stuey, What’s Good?”
I am having a really hard time getting along with my roommate. We barely have anything in common and I get annoyed by everything he does. Stuey, what’s good?
It is very normal to have issues with your roommate. Living together with anybody for an extended period of time can be difficult. Students have their own schedules and are unique in their organization patterns. If you are experiencing problems with your roommate, there are multiple ways you can resolve them.
One thing you should try, before anything else, is talking about the issues at hand. Try your best to resolve these issues together without involving a third party. Most of the time, the issues you think are major are only major to you. If you have a problem with the way your roommate is acting, tell them how you feel and ask them if they would not mind reaching a compromise. If talking to your roommate is out of the question, try talking to your residential adviser about the problem. They may be able to work something out to resolve the issue.
One thing you should not do is complain and talk about your problems to everyone other than your roommate. This will do nothing but cause more problems and make your living situation that much more difficult to deal with. Instead, you should try removing yourself from the situation and getting away from your roommate for a little while. Maybe all you need to solve your issue is a break.